If you have to cut someone off, did you really heal? Can you ever truly heal?
If you had to cut someone off, did you truly heal? Ask yourself. Cutting people off shows weakness within yourself, it actually shows the lack of healing. It shows that there is something that is still bothering or hurting you when you carry out the act of “cutting someone off”. That act is filled with more negativity than positivity; it’s filled with ill intent; and this ill intent is what’s stopping your journey to a true peace of mind. Healing has become a toxic act with our culture these days and I say that because no one is truly healing…they are actually HURTING & masking their feelings behind a bunch of memes and “high vibrational post”. No one is truly doing the work and that’s the problem. In order to heal, you have to FORGIVE, & that’s the part that I believe a lot of people are missing. Healing yourself is connected to healing others, and the journey can often be a challenge because your probably thinking, how dare i help heal someone who hurt me. Question is, why not? Healing is such a tricky thing because it’s a lifetime act. No one will ever be completely healed and I say that because you are a compilation of generations of hurt that was never dealt with, that your carrying. Your carrying around your ancestors pain and unresolved trauma, so even when you feel like you’ve healed, it’s someone in your genetics that also needs healing, but also when you heal, you have healed others. When you truly heal, you heal others…even those who have hurt you. I remember hurting so bad that all I wanted to do was make others feel the way I felt all those years, until one day someone told me, “The people who hurt you are also hurting. Yes those people hurt you, but now you are the problem because you are extending your pain by lacking forgiveness, and who are you to not forgive”. & I remember thinking to myself, I am the issue. Yes those people hurt me, and now I have in fact turned into the same people that I am attempting to heal from…so how will I heal? I can’t heal, I’m too busy looking for revenge. I learned that there is so much strength in acknowledging pain and growing from it. True healing is being able to coexists with those who have hurt you and be that example of what true healing looks like. True healing is healing yourself and also healing those who have hurt you with your presence, grace, and kindness. Healing yourself is truly connected with healing others. When you look at humanity from a Birds Eye view, and truly understand how flawed humanity is and how imperfectly perfect we are…..forgiveness and healing will become much easier; you learn to appreciate the flawed because no one is perfect…they are uniquely them. & believe it or not, all of your experiences are a reflection of a part of you. The people you invite into your life will reflect parts of you, some may be good and some may be bad. The bad ones you need to embrace them so you can work on yourself. Even when those who hurt you don’t acknowledge their role in your hurt, don’t trip. Forgiving them allows you to heal that part of you that was broken, that part of you that attracted them into your life in the first place. Understand that you will not truly heal until you heal those parts of you that are toxic, until you heal those who have come before you (ancestors), like you have to understand that you are not just YOU, you are EVERYONE who came before you. We walk around and complain about our parents, but then turn around and do the exact same things as them. Not on purpose, but you are them. That’s why it’s important to be PRESENT at all times so when you see a characteristic that you don’t like about yourself, fix it at that moment, when something happens that you don’t like, fix it at that moment. That’s how you start to heal…by being present. I don’t think you will be able to heal every part of you in your lifetime, I don’t think it’s possible, I’ve never seen or heard of it. No one is perfect, not even nature; so why do you expect yourself to be. Do your best always and always remember forgiveness is key.
What are your thoughts?
Love,
Jas🤍
